Building Courage Through Prayer and Action
Why Your Prayers Aren’t Working and How to Build Real Courage
Have you ever had to do something that you didn’t want to do? So you prayed about it, and then the prayer didn’t work?
Reality was still there. It was like, why didn’t that prayer work? I prayed but I got no answer.
I’ve been there, done that myself. I ended up picking up a book called The Supernatural Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy, and it explained so much to me. I hope I’m going to be able to explain it to you today as well.
My name is Vicky Lord, and on this channel, I speak about all things courage, personal growth, and faith.
Today, I want to talk about the loop and the cycle of faith and then the pattern of not getting your answer. I hope this message reaches whoever it needs to reach today.
The Pattern of Prayer Without an Answer
I recently saw a lady in this pattern of prayer. She’d go and pray and feel really good, but then her reality wouldn’t change. I noticed it in her because I was doing it myself.
What I came to realise after my study was that the act of prayer itself isn’t wrong. But what was happening was that we were going to prayer, and the prayer was making us relax. Then we’d come back into reality, and reality was not relaxed.
What had to change was the loop. We were in a pain loop.
To understand this, we need to look at the system of our body. We have three main systems. One is our nervous system that goes from the top of our head to the toes of our feet. We’re full of these little nerves that hold memory.
We’ve also got our mind. Our mind is also what’s chatting to our system of nerves. The memory of the mind is talking to the memory of the body, and when these two are communicating, it’s giving you what you believe is reality.
In the case of this prayer loop, the cycle was:
- Reality: We’re stressed, anxious, and don’t have the courage to have a conversation (or face a situation).
- Prayer: We go to prayer for a source of an answer, and it makes us feel good and relaxed.
- Back to Reality: We return to our lives, but the stressful reality hasn’t changed, so we get stressed again.
The dependence was on using prayer to escape the reality and the truth, not to transform it.
A Personal Example: My Answer on the Hill
I’ll give you a personal example. I had to have a conversation, and it was so difficult for me that I was avoiding it at all costs. My response was to pray, and I’d feel better. I’d say, “It’s in the hands of God,” and then I wouldn’t take any action.
That very not taking action was a lack of faith in itself.
I was out on a hill, begging with desperation for an answer. That desperate begging and anxiety wasn’t going to get the answer. It was just a void that day with no answer.
But then, a few weeks later, I got given books on how to have a conversation.
That was the answer to the prayer. While there was silence on the hill, I got given the tools later. I took that as an answer, and I learned how to have a conversation.
That external power was like, “No, I’m going to give you your personal growth here. Here’s some books. Toughen up and have a conversation.”
How to Get Out of the Loop: Building Life Courage
This brings me back to the other lady and myself. We were avoiding life’s tough situations, going to prayer, feeling the relax of the nervous system, and then going back into reality.
I believe the key is that we need to toughen up in some ways and build some courage in our lives.
Once you have courage, you will go to prayer from a different point of view. You won’t go from a place of desperation. You’ll be going from a place of certainty, and that will shift everything for you.
So, here are my three tips on how to build courage in your life.
3 Tips to Build Courage and Transform Your Prayers
1. Notice the Emotion and Give It a New Learning
First, realise the conversation that’s happening within your body. Notice the emotion that’s attached to it.
If we take “having a difficult conversation” as the example, you might notice there is tension in your body. To relax the body, we need to become aware of the emotion we’re holding within us.
All this is, is just awareness.
Close your eyes, scan your body, and ask it what it’s trying to tell you. What is the message? It will tell you it’s the fear of judgment, or the fear of rejection.
Once you identify it, you can release it by getting a new learning for that emotion.
Instead of the thought, “I’m worried I’m going to be rejected in this conversation and I’ll have no friends,” get a new, powerful learning.
The new learning could be: “I’ve got friends everywhere. I can make a friend down the street. I’m not going to lose my friends by speaking my truth. It’s going to be better than that; it’s going to grow and evolve.”
My coach once said to me, “Can I challenge that?” If you feel a heavy belief within you, challenge it. Say to that belief, “I’m going to challenge you,” and see what new learning you get.
2. Reframe Fear as Excitement
The thing that scares you the most is probably not going to be so dramatic once you do it.
You won’t take the step if you feel unsafe. So, we need to get our body feeling like it can take the courage and the boldness. We do this by refreshing our mind.
Turn the feeling from fear to excitement. Fear and excitement are the same thing.
If you hold them at opposite ends of the scale, fear is on one end and excitement is the other. They’re both exactly the same energy, but you’re just giving it a different meaning.
If you give it the meaning of excited, then you’ll be ready to take the courage and totally transform your life.
3. Take a Little Bit of Action (Boldness)
The final step is to take a little bit of action towards it. This is called boldness, and your life will really change when you take that little step.
From my own experience, when I took the action and spoke up in my conversation, I was free after it. Not instantly, but weeks later, I was so glad that I started to speak my truth.
Over time, speaking gets easier and easier.
When you come to have that prayer for that conversation, you’ll be guided in that conversation instead of needing to be rescued. It totally changes things.
I hope this helped you today. If it did and you want more courage tips, you can subscribe to my channel. I drop a video every Monday on something to bring more peace and joy to your life.
Thank you so much for reading.
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